How do you heal your shame?
Here’s how I worked to heal myself and combat my feelings of shame—and how you can, too:
- Stop blaming yourself for the abuse.
- Give your shame back to your abusers.
- Gain an understanding as to why you behaved as you did.
- Show self-compassion.
- Provide yourself with forgiveness.
How does shame manifest in the body? Shame produces an implosion of the body: head lowered, eyes closed or hidden, and the upper body curved in on itself as if trying to be as small as possible (the bodily acting out of the wish to disappear).
What is the book Healing the Shame that Binds You About? This New York Times #1 Best Seller, HEALING THE SHAME THAT BINDS YOU is John Bradshaw’s most enduring work. In it, he shows how unhealthy toxic shame is the core component of our compulsions including, codependency, lying, addiction, and the drive to super-achieve or underachieve.
What is toxic shame Bradshaw? Bradshaw describes toxic shame as more than an emotion that signals human limits; rather, it creates beliefs that one’s true self is defective and flawed, creating a false sense that one is defective as a human being.